Discovering Gold: The Gifts of Releasing Resistance

Discovering Gold: The Gifts of Releasing Resistance

I’ve known intellectually for a long time that resistance ties up a lot of energy and causes emotional suffering.

But I didn’t always embody that knowledge.  Often, when something happened that I didn’t like or didn’t want, I would stay stuck in the emotions that kept me in resistance mode.  And so, I suffered.

Before three years ago, I never would have guessed that a vacation “disaster” would turn out to give me a golden opportunity to release a long-term and painful pattern of resistance.

But this difficult event brought my resistance into the light, where I could clearly see it.  It was “in my face!”  Confronted with my strong resistance, I used the same tools I use with my clients to help me release my resistance.  This stopped my suffering in its tracks and brought me to a place of peace and acceptance that felt so wonderful.

Here’s what happened:  .......

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How Victor Stopped Procrastinating

How Victor Stopped Procrastinating

Sometimes procrastination is healthy and wise – as when we have a lot on our proverbial plates and a limited supply of time and energy each day to attend to an array of tasks, and we consciously choose to tend to only the most important things now, putting off the non-essential ones.  In doing this, we create time to rest and rejuvenate our bodies, minds and spirits so that we have renewed energy for the next day.

At other times, procrastination is not so healthy – as when we habitually postpone doing necessary things, and wind up with a huge backlog  – of undone tasks, physical clutter, and mental clutter.

Over time, a pattern of habitual procrastination weighs us down because we become frustrated with ourselves as we see and experience the consequences of our inaction or delayed action. 

You may think that a long-term pattern of procrastination would take a lot of effort and a long time to change.  But what I’ve seen is that a person can let go of a procrastinating pattern more quickly and easily when newer methods are used to release and shift the energy of the pattern in the body.  Taking immediate action then becomes – and feels - easy.

Click on "READ MORE" to find out how my client Victor ended his pattern of procrastination in one easy session.

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How Julia Released Her Back Pain

How Julia Released Her Back Pain

Emotional pain and physical pain are like two peas in a pod.  Where one is present, so is the other.

Has your stomach ever done belly-flops before you speak in front of a group?  Had a headache when you felt really worried or anxious about something? Felt tightness in your chest when you were irritated by another person’s behavior?  

These are some of the ways in which our bodies speak to us: anxiety, fear, anger and other negative emotions are expressed physically in the body as physical pain and symptoms.

Click on "read more" to find out how my client Julia found the path to living pain-free.

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How Leanne Fell in Love with Her Husband Again

How Leanne Fell in Love with Her Husband Again

Most of us want to be loved by and feel loving towards the people who are important to us.  When we think we’re not loved, we feel unhappy.  When we feel unhappy, we often either stay stuck in the unhappiness or try hard to change things so that we can feel happy again.

When someone is unhappy in a relationship, often what happens is observing what’s “wrong” with the other person and thinking: “If only he/she would change in a certain way, then I’d be happier.”

When another person does not change in the ways that we want, the result is feeling perpetually angry and resentful.

Large doses of these emotions harm us and prevent us from feeling our love. The path back to happiness starts by releasing and resolving these toxic emotions so that love can be restored.

Leanne’s Story: Releasing a Lifetime of Anger and Resentment

Let me tell you what happened for Leanne, an accomplished and highly creative dancer, performer, and teacher.

Leanne came to me feeling very tired.  Tired of feeling angry, resentful and unhappy for many years.

She said: "My anger is killing me."

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EFT Tapping Tip: Finding the Right Words

EFT Tapping Tip: Finding the Right Words

“What words do I use?"

"EFT seems so easy in sessions.
 When I try to tap on my own, I just can’t seem to find the right words.”

When clients come for sessions with me, we tap and they get profound relief and positive shifts for their challenging and stressful life situations. 

But when they go home, many of them tell me that they have trouble tapping on their own.  One of the most common difficulties is finding the “right” words to use.

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How Bonnie Broke Off Her Lifelong Love Affair with Sugar

How Bonnie Broke Off Her Lifelong Love Affair with Sugar

Let me tell you about Bonnie.

Bonnie has had a lifelong love/hate affair with sugar.   

She loves eating sugar, and hates what it does to her body and her health.   

Bonnie came to me wanting relief from what she called her “food addiction.”  

For Bonnie, food was her “go to” thing.  She’d go to food to cover up painful emotions, so she wouldn’t have to feel them – at least while she was eating.  “Whenever I couldn’t find comfort, I’d find it in food,” she said.

She’d also go to food to celebrate – for special occasions and whenever she had company.  This pattern started way back in childhood, when her mom would serve an abundance of food and sweets whenever company came over.

As a result, she gained a lot of weight.

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What's Your Joy Quotient?

What's Your Joy Quotient?

Discover a not-so-obvious way to cultivate joy in your life. 

In our culture, we receive many messages to pursue joy and happiness.  Many of these messages encourage us to seek joy outside ourselves – by acquiring more, having more and doing more.

The happiness we feel from having and doing is often fleeting and ultimately unsatisfying.  And then we wind up craving more, acquiring more, doing more – trying to scratch an itch that never seems to stop.

But pure joy is accessible regardless of our outer circumstances, regardless of how much stuff we have or how much activity we cram into our lives.  

Many of us would like to feel this pleasurable emotion more of the time.  Why is it so elusive?

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How Susan Resolved Her Inner Tug-of-War

How Susan Resolved Her Inner Tug-of-War

All of us experience internal struggles from time to time.  This article tells the story of how Susan ended a difficult inner struggle with ease and grace - and you can, too. Whenever you're struggling to make a choice, feeling pulled in different directions, you can make your choice crystal-clear following the simple 4-step process outlined here.

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What's Your Anger Trying to Tell You?

What's Your Anger Trying to Tell You?

Anger has been given a bad rap in our society.  Many people "bottle it up" because they've received messages that anger is a "bad" emotion. But anger has a very important purpose in your daily life. Read this article to find out how anger is related to your personal boundaries.

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